My father was a workaholic. I remember sleeping in his bed waiting for him to come home at night.

Following in my father’s footsteps, I went into law where workaholism is considered to be normal – and even considered to be a “badge of honor,” as if to say: “She is so noble for working so hard.”

Then, I became an entrepreneur which involved a lot of tiring bushwhacking as I forged my own path.

One day, I looked around and noticed that my best friends were workaholics. (You are who you surround yourself with.) I noticed an unhealthy pattern and decided to break it.

If you are not where you want to be, you might want to ask yourself the following question: “Why am I choosing to have this experience?” Maybe hard work, struggle, or hustle was modeled for you… maybe it is all you have ever known or believe to be possible for yourself. What do you want instead?

Most of us have some sort of conditioning to undo or a cycle to break.

I am a huge advocate for coaching because it begins where formal schooling ends. It is the biggest act of self-care to have someone hold space for your desires and hold you accountable to your greatness. Stuff is overrated. Stuff goes away. You don’t go away. The best gift you can give someone is the example of your life working.

You may wish to speak with your tax professional to see if you can write off coaching as an educational expense. Alternatively, chat with your company/firm to see if they would be willing to subsidize all or a portion of the investment as a marketing or educational expense. Can’t hurt to ask!